In our fast-paced adult lives, staying close with friends can be challenging. Amidst hectic schedules, the responsibilities of raising children, and the geographical distance that often separates us, it's not uncommon to only have the chance to see our closest friends once a year, if we're lucky. Yet, amidst the busyness, there's a simple, incredibly underestimated and profound way to nurture these relationships daily: prayer.
Why should I pray for my friends?
Prayer isn't just an obligation for us as Catholics; it changes lives. When we pray for our friends, we become more than just companions; we become intercessors. The best part? Prayer has positive effects on both the person praying and the recipient. It can soften our own hearts whilst assisting the good will of our friends.
One of my favorite friendships is the remarkable story of Jonathan and David—a friendship characterized by selflessness, loyalty, and unwavering support. Jonathan, the son of King Saul, formed an inseparable bond with David, who would later become king. Despite the odds stacked against them, in 1 Samuel 18:1, it's written, "the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul." Their friendship was marked by selflessness, mutual respect, and unwavering devotion.
Just as Jonathan prayed for David's success and safety, so too can we lift our friends up in prayer, seeking God's blessings and protection for them.
How to pray for friends
Praying for friends doesn't have to be complicated. With this prayer template, it's actually very easy. Simply write down their names and tape it somewhere you frequent daily, such as near your sink, above your bed, or on your desk. By integrating this practice into your routine, you'll develop a habit of praying for your friends each day.
What else can I do for them?
While praying for your friends is powerful in itself, be sure to check in on your friends at least once a year, whether through a phone call, a handwritten letter, or by visiting them.
If you know they're facing specific challenges, consider offering prayers tailored to their needs. For instance, if a friend is grieving a loss, pray the St. Gertrude prayer for their departed loved one. If another friend is struggling with infertility, invoke St. Gerard's intercession. And for those grappling with doubts or spiritual crises, the St. Monica prayer can help them reconvert back to the faith.
A Prayer for Friends
In the words of St. Teresa of Ávila, "Friendship, when it is real, is one of the greatest goods on earth." Let us, therefore, cherish the gift of friendship and commit to nurturing it through prayer.
Blessed Mother of those whom I care for, watch over them with every care. Make their way easy and their labors fruitful. Dry their tears if they weep; sanctify their joys; raise their courage if they weaken; restore their hope if they lose heart, their health if they be ill, truth if they err, and repentance if they fall. Amen.
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